I was thrown out of college for cheating on the metaphysics exam; I looked into the soul of the boy sitting next to me.

-- Woody Allen

Posted 1/18/2012

Updated 1/18/2012

Keywords Codependency, Jason, OCD

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Relationship 2.0

A glance at the masthead shows that Jason and I are back together. This is what I hoped would happen, though I had no idea if it would, when we broke up.

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Posted 12/30/2011

Updated 12/30/2011

Keywords Christmas

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Christmas, 2011

This is the first year, since I started sending Christmas letters in 1976, that I am doing so while living alone. Nevertheless, here is my annual Christmas letter for 2011.

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Posted 11/1/2011

Updated 11/1/2011

Keywords Codependency

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Codependency

I've just ended my fourth romantic relationship and it's time to look at the role I played in why they didn't work out, as a first step in learning to stop perpetuating this pattern.

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Posted 10/30/2011

Updated 10/30/2011

Keywords Craigslist, Scams

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Scam

A lot of people avoid Craigslist for fear they will somehow become victims of a scam. That's too bad, because a lot of less fearful people make good use of this tool for getting money for things they no longer want or need. I, personally, have successfully sold many items, including drapes, a floor steamer, and even a DVD box set. Sure, scams exist, but they are actually very easy to spot. And when you do, you have the option of telling the scammer exactly what you think of him or her! So, when you do advertise something on Craigslist, you either successfully sell it, or you get free therapy (and sometimes both). Win-win!

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Posted 10/25/2011

Updated 10/25/2011

Keywords Jason

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Obsession

As previously documented, I fell in love with a man named Jason and married him in a private sharing of vows at Grand Canyon. In a fairytale world, that would have led to "happily ever after". Sadly, the real world seldom operates that way. And, despite the claims of popular songs to the contrary,  sometimes love just ain't enough.

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Posted 6/16/2011

Updated 6/16/2011

Keywords Arizona, Gay Marriage, Grand Canyon, Jason, Marriage Equality

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Jason and Paul's Grand Canyon Wedding

Today was the day that Jason Yates and I eloped and got married.

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Posted 5/19/2011

Updated 5/19/2011

Keywords Hawaii, Maui

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Last Day In Maui

Today is the day Jason and I left Maui.

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Posted 5/18/2011

Updated 5/18/2011

Keywords Iao Valley, Maui, West Maui

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Signs and Wonders in West Maui

The island of Maui is shaped like a dumbbell. The larger, eastern half is formed from the volcano Haleakala. The smaller, western half is an eroded, ancient volcano. I had never been to the western half of Maui (except for Papalaua Park, where we spent last night). Now, on this, Jason's and my final full day on Maui.

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Posted 5/17/2011

Updated 5/17/2011

Keywords Hawaii, Luau, Maui, Molokini, Snorkeling

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Snorkeling and Luaus

We had saved today for the most blatantly touristy stuff one can do on Maui, besides shopping for T-shirts: A snorkeling trip, and a luau.

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Posted 5/16/2011

Updated 5/16/2011

Keywords Haleakala, Hawaii, Haycraft Beach Park, Maui

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Haleakala to Haycroft Beach Park

It was a cold night. Even in the camper, even with Jason and me snuggling together, it was a cold night at the top of Mount Haleakala, Maui's highest mountain. Once, I had to get up to go to the restroom and was startled to find the clouds that, by day, constantly hike the summit of Haleakala from the ground, had cleared, revealing a patchwork of lights on the isthmus far below. But it was even colder outside than in, and I hurried back as quickly as I could to the warmth of our bed and Jason's arms.

In the morning, hopefully, we would be able to call the camper company and get them to drive all the heck up here with a replacement for the broken camper key.

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